How to Plan the Perfect Surprise Proposal
(Even If You Have No Idea Where to Start)
Planning a proposal can feel overwhelming—especially when you want it to be perfect, personal, and a total surprise. If you’re here, chances are you know who you want to spend forever with, but need a little help pulling off the moment. Don’t worry—you’re not alone. This guide will walk you through each step to help you confidently plan a heartfelt, unforgettable proposal.
Step 1: Know Your Partner’s Style
Before you start planning, think about what kind of moment your partner would love.
Are they private and intimate? Go for a secluded beach, scenic overlook, or even your backyard.
Do they love grand gestures? Consider involving friends or family, or proposing during a trip or special event.
Sentimental? Choose a location meaningful to your relationship or incorporate personal touches like favorite songs, photos, or inside jokes.
✨ Pro Tip: If you're unsure, sneak in a convo about dream proposals or pay attention to how they react to others’ engagements.
Step 2: Choose a Meaningful Location
Location sets the tone—romantic, adventurous, cozy, dramatic. Some ideas:
A favorite hike or scenic overlook (like Garrapata State Park or Big Sur cliffs)
The beach at sunset (Carmel Beach or Ribera Beach are stunners)
A spot from your first date or favorite memory
A travel destination or staycation with a beautiful view
🌿 Think about lighting, privacy, accessibility, and weather. Your photographer can help you scout the perfect spot!
Step 3: Pick the Date and Time
Golden hour (the hour before sunset) is always dreamy for lighting and ambiance. Sunrise proposals are also beautiful and often more private.
🗓 Things to consider:
Your schedules
Lighting (sunset vs. midday)
Crowds (weekdays are often quieter)
The weather forecast
Step 4: Hire a Photographer (Optional, but Worth It)
If you're investing thought into this moment, it deserves to be captured. A photographer can discreetly document the surprise, then guide you into beautiful post-proposal portraits.
🎥 Want it all? Some photographers (like me!) offer proposal videos too—a highlight reel of the big moment to relive again and again.
Step 5: Plan the Logistics
Ring: Get it insured and keep it hidden!
Clue your photographer in: Share what you’re wearing, where you’ll stand, your cue and any backup plans.
Set the scene: Bring flowers, champagne, a handwritten note—or even go big with a styled picnic setup!
Distraction strategy: Plan a believable excuse for dressing nicely and going to the location (e.g. dinner reservations, a scenic walk, or a couple's shoot).
Backup plan: Rain? Crowds? Have a Plan B location or time just in case.
Step 6: The Cue
Have a clear signal for your photographer or anyone helping (like, “When she’s looking at the ocean, I’ll kneel”). This ensures timing is chef’s kiss perfect.
Step 7: Pop the Question
Take a deep breath. It’s okay to be nervous—your partner will remember the emotion more than your exact words. Speak from the heart and savor the moment.
💬 Not sure what to say? Write a few bullet points in advance and practice them aloud. Keep it true to you.
Step 8: Celebrate!
After the “yes,” plan something special to keep the celebration going:
A romantic dinner reservation
A champagne toast
A surprise engagement party with family and friends
A relaxed beach picnic or wine tasting
Stargazing
Step 9: Share the News
Let your partner enjoy the moment before pulling out phones. Your photographer will likely have sneak peeks ready within a day or two so you can share the good stuff on social media.
Final Thoughts
You don’t need a huge plan, just a genuine one. The most memorable proposals are rooted in authenticity, love, and intention—not perfection. Surround yourself with a team who can support you (photographers, stylists, planners), and focus on making it special for the two of you.
You’ve got this—and if you need help bringing it all together, I’d love to help make it unforgettable
